Using Movies to Teach Truth

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Several weeks ago our family rented Kung Fu Panda 2 for a cozy movie night at home. In the midst of backflips and kickboxing, incendiary buildings and talking animals, there were two scenes that captured me with their depth and veiled allusions to God. Both made me consider how  would answer the questions posed…

Read the rest of this post over at Girl Meets Paper HERE… and then consider the following activities to do as a family:

  • How might you use these same questions to prompt a discussion with your children?
  • Has your family ever facee persecution, teasing, loss of friends, difficult family relationships because of your faith? Ask your kids the same.
  • Read the article links about India, Egypt and Israel (embedded in blog post) and find those places on the map together. Talk about what life would be like under those scary conditions (sensor details where appropriate).
  • For ideas on how you and your family can get involved in supporting and praying for the persecuted church, check out the Voice of the Martyrs website for kids.
  • Request a prayer calendar from Voice of the Martyrs so that you and your family can pray daily for specific people, pastors, and areas being persecuted.

When Your Child Is Teased

Friendship issues are part of life, yet when they involve elementary-aged girls, they seem to be examined under a microscope.

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This evening at bedtime my daughter confided that one of the girls on the playground at school has been pushing her buttons in all the wrong ways. Among other things, they tease her by suggesting she should marry certain boys. 

I guess when you’re 8, that’s a hurtful kind of embarrassment.

So tonight as I tucked her in, we talked. I did my best to ignore the ticking clock and the fact that we were now epically past her bedtime. She snuggled up beside me and let it all spill out.

So what to do as a mom? I don’t think there’s a magic formula, but here are a few ideas to try next time your little one comes home with news of teasing:

  1. Try your best to really listen. Close your laptop. Set your phone aside. Be present.
  2. Ask questions to deepen your understanding of the situation. Try to draw out both sides of the story.
  3. Offer plenty of hugs and discuss the wonderful friendships she does have.
  4. Ask her if you can pray together:
In your prayer, consider these elements:
  • Thank God together for the gift of friendship and for the trustworthy friends in her life.
  • Name those friends together, giving thanks.
  • Ask that the Lord would work on the heart of Ms. Tease and soften it to realize when her words are hurtful.
  • Pray that your daughter would have the courage to confront Ms. Tease in a kind but firm manner when rude behavior begins.
  • Ask Jesus to guard over your daughter’s heart so that she does not absorb this behavior as being acceptable.
  • Pray together that if playground time becomes a dreaded part of the day, that your daughter would again have the courage to tell her teacher and her parents.
I feel it may be important to note that right now I do not view our daughter’s situation as bullying, however moving from teasing to bullying certainly can be a fine line. As parents, we must remember that we are our kids’ advocates! If you feel that the playground has become a haven for bullies at your school, I encourage you to contact your building principal right away.

 

Situations of unfriendliness and teasing offer us parents a wonderful opportunity to extend grace to another and model a spirit of prayer. And even though prayer may not be our first natural inclination all the time, seizing the moment will provide valuable teachable opportunities for our kids.

 

How have you handled teasing at your home or at your child’s school?

 

 

Last Minute Gifts: Part 1 of 3

We’ve been fans of Seeds Worship CDs for many years and Christmas seemed like the perfect time to expand our inventory. What better gift than further planting the word of God in the hearts of our kids? Our gang will each be receiving a new CD in their stockings on Christmas morning.

Seeds began when worship leader Jason Houser was asked by his church to create some catchy tunes for his church’s summer Bible school program. What resulted was a collection of songs straight from Scripture that grown-ups liked as much as the kids. That small “seed” has grown into a company that has now produced six albums — all helping you and your family hide the Word of God in your hearts.

  • With each Seeds CD purchase, you are given TWO CDs: one for you and one to share! What an awesome opportunity to reach out to a family who needs to hear the Bible!
  • Seeds is a great way to supplement the spiritual formation already happening in your home! Check out their “KIDS” page for resources to help with memorization.
  • Get other great family activity ideas HERE.
Remember that Seeds are also available on iTunes if you don’t think they’ll be delivered on time!
Are you familiar with Seeds? What is your favorite song or album?

 

 

Daily Advent Calendar: Part 3 of 3 for Advent

Well, I promised you a $2.99 idea for Advent, and this is it: A Dayspring Advent calendar !

  • The beauty of this calendar is that each square is numbered above a tear-away door. (We’re trying to preserve the “doors” so that we can reuse this next year, but with so many curious fingers, not all are making it.)
  • Behind each door is a short Bible verse reminding us who Jesus is and what his mission on earth was.  My older two children can read these easily, and my youngest can do so with some help.
  • The back of the calendar is magnetic and secures neatly to your refrigerator.

For the cost of a Happy Meal, you can easily incorporate some Advent readings into your day. Even if you’re starting late, you still have a week left before Christmas! Why not read a handful of passages each night at dinner or before bed to deliver the wonderful message of God’s truth to your children?

What’s your easy Advent idea this year?

 

Secret Keeper Girls

Low cut tops.

Short skirts.

EAGER BOYS.

Moms of daughters: if you’re anything like me, when these thoughts start spinning, the mandate to “not worry” [Mt. 6:25] is difficult to heed. Of course clothing and boys are only a part of the concern; our children are growing up amidst unprecedented societal pressures and pitfalls ranging from internet safety to substance abuse to bullying. And apparently, it’s our job to help them navigate the stormy seas–ready or not!

My daughter with Suzy Weibel at SKG

This past weekend my daughter and I were blessed to attend a Secret Keeper Girls Pajama Party near our town. Designed for girls aged 8-12, Dannah Gresh’s ministry seeks to teach girls about where true beauty comes from and how to dress modestly and still be a fashionista.

With music, dancing, and game shows sprinkled throughout the 2.5 hour event, girls and moms alike were engaged and encouraged to give a second look to catalog covers and celebrity photos.

One of the games we played split the audience into two teams while photos of TV and movie personalities with no makeup on flashed on the screen. Our job was to identify the person in the photo. After the correct answer was revealed, the professional headshot of the star replaced the untouched photo, clearly showing the girls how much makeup was applied, how fans helped to blow their glamorous manes, and how skin was brighter and tighter than before.

Secret Keeper Girls in no way suggests that makeup and a great haircut are wrong or are to blame for the pressure placed on girls and women; rather, they point out that using the media as a compass will point you in attainable directions. For young girls just beginning to think about their own face and hair and clothing, holding up airbrushed women is particularly damaging. Did you know that current research indicates that roughly half of young girls worry about or feel they are already overweight?

SKG reminds us that while the media tells you one thing—God’s Word tells you the Truth.

Verses like Psalm 45:11 are powerful: “Let the king be enthralled by your beauty…” We discussed how the King is God and is your Father… making you a princess! Now consider that the Psalmist says that your Father–the King–is enthralled by your beauty!

The leaders at Secret Keeper Girls had a toolbox brimming with Scripture references to combat the lies of this world. The leaders reminded us that our “princesses” are different from the princesses of the world–and that we moms have to help them stay mindful of God’s truth!

If you think your daughter could benefit from learning these promises and re-connecting her compass with True North, check out the SKG website for an upcoming event in your area! You won’t regret it.

 

Bible Answers Devotional

If your kids have questions, this book has some answers! I unearthed this treasure from a bargain book table and have been reading a few “questions” to each day as part of our devotions. Our kids have found them to be relevant, short and sweet, and perfectly to-the-point. The pages include cartoon sketches to illustrate the message, along with a Bible verse at the bottom that can be simply read, used as a reference tool for further study, or for memory work.

The Awesome Book of Bible Answers for Kids, by Josh McDowell and Kevin Johnson is a wonderful compilation of questions that every kid [and grown-up!] asks. The table of contents is divided up thematically with a series of Q & A under each theme:

  • Questions about God
  • Questions about Sin
  • Questions about Forgiveness
  • Questions about God’s Love
  • Questions about Prayer
  • Questions about Jesus
  • Questions about The Holy Spirit
  • Questions about The Devil
  • Questions about The Bible
  • Questions about Different Religions
  • Questions about Right and Wrong
  • Questions about The Future
  • Questions about Church
  • Questions about Death and Heaven

The entire book houses 77 questions and answers along with a learning and conversation guide for parents, an index of Bible verses, and an index of topics. If you’ve ever felt like you wanted to dive into a place that opens the door for questioning and turning to the Bible for answers, this book is the perfect gateway.

What have you been reading for your family devotions lately?

 

 

100 Inspired Ideas

Today I’m sharing a list that Kristen Welch posted yesterday on her blog, We are THAT Family. It is called “100 Ways for Your Family to Make A Difference;”  I thought the list was so inspired that I’m sending you her way for encouragement and fantastic ideas.

Be sure to leave Kristen a comment and tell her how you found her!

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Sponsoring a Child … or Two

As I mentioned last week, my heart has lately been sucked into faraway places as I fall in love with two children I’ve never met. Our family has dipped its toes in the boundary-extending pool of Child Sponsorship, and are basking in the joy that comes with making a difference in the life of a child.

Mayli, the first child sponsored, is 3 and lives in Peru. Having spent time in that country during college makes me feel somehow closer to knowing her: I remember the landscape, I know the history, I’ve seen the squatter settlements. Mayli has captured our affections simply by virtue of being herself, and my own kids are thrilled to have her in our extended family.

Then, last Friday, something possessed me to scroll through the faces of the other children on World Vision’s site. This time I was looking for a little boy in Zambia, another country I’ve visited, and a place ravaged by the effects of AIDS. Let me just note that it’s nearly impossible to just “browse” through the catalog of children available and waiting for help! If your heart is open at all, you’ll want to claim one for your own. I think my husband is starting to worry  ;)

When I saw Rigan’s face, I just couldn’t leave him, smile frozen on the screen, waiting for a sponsor. What a little doll! Our kids were so excited to include another child to our prayer list; they’re clambering for opportunities to send love across the ocean.

If your family is searching for ways to teach generosity, selflessness, and love, please consider committing to a child. The teaching opportunities–and heart-training moments–are unmatched.

One of the delightful things we’ve been able to do together is to go to the store and purchase small items to send to our kids. Things like: colored pencils, a notepad, comb, hair clips, mirror, puzzle, and pencils are gifts that we can’t wait to send!

  • Why not do a needs vs. wants lesson with your young ones?
  • Or do a country study?
  • Talk about how much money most families in that country have to live on each day.
  • When you’re at the store, show your kids your shopping list and decide together what you’d buy if YOU were living on your child’s daily income.

Furthermore, the simple act of sending a card, photos of your family, or a letter are objects that become treasured in the small hands of your sponsored child. I’ve been following the Compassion Bloggers on their trip to the Philippines and was so touched by this article. WHEN you read it, be sure to scroll down and watch the video. [All of Emily's posts are gorgeous! Snoop around!]

  • In fact, why not watch her video with your kids and compare and contrast the neighborhood shown with the one in which you live? Venn diagrams or a paper sectioned in half works perfectly.
  • Also, discuss how the girl feels about her sponsoring family.
  • Notice how she has kept letters and smiles as she reads them, probably for the hundredth time.
  • Work with your kids to draw pictures and write small notes to send to your child.

YOUR TURN: How do you use Child Sponsorships to teach your children and grow your generosity?

 

Heart Issues

Several years ago I was struggling through some issues that left me feeling pushed back on my heels and unprepared emotionally. In the midst of those trials, I never really knew how I should respond: was it right to defend myself? Should I keep quiet? Would it be okay to engage in the conversation?

When I shared the details with my dear friend [and personal counselor] Lyndsey, she walked me through ways that Christ dealt with various circumstances and offered an idea that has stuck with me. With gentleness and love she said, “Jane, why don’t you spend some time in The Word and pick out one or two verses that deal with this struggle. Memorize them, then write them on a small piece of paper and keep it in your pocket. When you’re in the thick of it, reach in and feel that piece of paper and say the verse in your head. Pray that verse and pray that God would give you wisdom for your next steps.”

Genius, right? [that's why they pay her the big bucks ...err...why she'll have many jewels in her crown, I mean.]

I believe this same principle can be applied to our instructing our kids. This past week we picked up my daughter and her neighbor-friend from Sunday School class only to find their faces sagging in sadness. They explained that another little girl was unkind to them both; they replayed all the scenes for us, complete with the bucket-dipping conversations their Barbie dolls had. “What to do?” we wondered.How to teach?”

It was perfect timing when my friend reminded me of For Instruction in Righteousness, by Pam Forster. It is a spiral bound reference guide that offers Bible verses in topical lists. For example, if  you are dealing with anger in your heart or home, several verses are listed pertaining to anger. What about jealousy or tattling? Several more verses are listed for each of those issues. And for our situation, how do you deal with someone who has treated you poorly?

This same friend, my most wonderful neighbor, was gracious enough to have spent some time with our girls working through the Sunday-School-Barbie-doll-episode. My little one came home so encouraged and eager to know a verse that could help her!

To bring the application full-circle and back to “God’s-Word-In-Your-Pocket”, today after school my daughter and I are going to choose one verse from the section on dealing with injustice, write it on a piece of paper, work to commit it to memory, and then nestle it safely away in her pocket. My neighbor, instead of stashing a verse in her daughter’s pocket, has decided to have her write helpful verses in a journal so that she can work on them at home. Some of you may find that you could choose a verse from the 2 or 3 most challenging topics and work on them as a family, creating a chart or flash cards for your kids.

Whether you write them out, type them up, draw them, act them out, or pray them together at dinnertime, I am convinced that reinforcing the practicality and application of God’s Word is a powerful tool that will help them navigate the minefield of the heart for years to come. Don’t you agree?

 

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