I’m pleased to be participating in the “Stay At Home Moms” series hosted by Erin at The Humbled Homemaker. If you’re visiting, thank you for joining us! Please come back again!
I’m pretty sure she’d like to shake me.
You know the one: that person in your life who white-knuckled it through your stay-at-home-with-little-ones years thinking you were wasting your degree? Who managed her blood pressure by thinking you’d surely go back to work when the kids were out the door?
Well, imagine her now that I’ve decided to continue staying home even though I don’t “have” to.
This fall, our first with all three in school, has been a transition for the ages. I’m convinced that I’ve felt every emotion possible, but one of the things I feel most is gratitude for this opportunity to be home “even though.”
WHY I DON’T GET A FULL-TIME JOB
First of all, I do want to acknowledge the millions of moms out there who would love to stay home with their kids, but for a myriad of reasons, cannot. I want to communicate clearly that I understand there are no cookie-cutter answers to life’s difficult dilemmas.
However, for those of us who are in a position to choose, I would argue that there are solid reasons for making the decision to stay home. If you’re sitting on the fence with this issue in your own life, here’s some food for thought:
- I love starting the day with my children, eating breakfast together, and sending them out the door with a prayer. Being at home allows me the schedule to make this happen.
- Getting errands like grocery shopping done during the day frees up our evenings.
- I believe it’s vital to be present during the 3-6 pm “after school” hours. Research shows it’s risky — especially as the teen years approach — to leave these hours unattended.
- Making a home-cooked meal with the help of my children is a priority at our house. Not only is it healthier and less expensive, but spending time together in the kitchen has opened the door to awesome conversations with my kids.
There are practical reasons for me being home, too, like needing to drive one of my children to and from her school each day. Who would make that commitment if I were gone?
Who will be here if another one comes down with strep throat?
And who will make sure the soccer uniform gets washed?
WHY STAYING AT HOME IS THE RIGHT CHOICE FOR ME
For this season in life, having me at home is the best answer to all of the questions we’ve asked. For this season, I choose to work part time from home so that I can give more fully to our family. I choose to be home to manage this life we live together. I choose to keep our days strung neatly in line rather than fraying too much at the edges.
Sometimes abundant life demands abundant sacrifice. But when you count the blessings instead of counting the cost, you’ll find a joy deemed priceless in the long run.
What about you? Why do you stay home even though you don’t “have” to?
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